- Family of origin issues
- Relationship communication
- Parenting and fatherhood
About Allan
Allan Herem is a California licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) with 23 years of experience. He works with adults on stress, anxiety, relationship strain, parenting concerns, low self-esteem, and depression. Allan also addresses family of origin issues and related matters such as attachment and fatherhood concerns.
He focuses on practical conversation and problem-solving. Sessions often look at patterns that began in the family someone grew up in and how those patterns show up now. Allan helps people name repeated roles and habits, clarify what they want, and practice different ways of relating.
In session he uses evidence-based therapeutic techniques to help people with communication struggles, feelings of abandonment, and guilt or shame. He talks through concrete skills for handling conflict, managing strong emotions, and setting boundaries with others. The work can include looking at how family expectations shaped current choices.
Allan brings steady experience rather than quick fixes. He combines direct feedback with follow-up suggestions people can try between sessions. The emphasis is on small, manageable shifts that change day-to-day life.
He practices in California and offers services in English. Allan’s background includes many years helping adults untangle family patterns so they can make clearer decisions about relationships, parenting, and personal goals.
Therapeutic approaches and online sessions
Allan works with evidence-based therapeutic techniques that focus on relationships and family patterns. One common approach looks at attachment-related dynamics, helping people identify how early relationship roles influence current behavior and closeness. This can help with commitment issues, abandonment concerns, and patterns of distance or enmeshment.Another approach involves practical communication and skills training. Sessions include role-play, practicing new ways to bring up difficult topics, and concrete steps for managing conflict and impulsivity. These methods are useful for improving conversation, handling infidelity fallout, or reducing repeated relationship cycles.
Finding the right method is part of the work together. Allan will collaborate with each person to choose techniques that fit their goals, needs, and preferences rather than assuming one path up front. That collaborative process includes checking progress and adjusting methods over time.
The profile does not list specific session formats, so confirm current online options before booking. Online sessions can make it easier to fit therapy into a busy week, allow shorter check-ins when needed, and remove travel time so appointments work around school, work, or caregiving. Therapists and licensed professionals often adapt exercises to work well over video or phone, and Allan will discuss which setup best supports the planned work.
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Experience
23+ years
Listed in
California
Languages
English
Frequently asked questions
What concerns does he work with?
He works with stress, anxiety, relationship strain, parenting questions, low self-esteem, and depression. The profile also lists family of origin and attachment-related issues.
What is his therapeutic approach and style?
He uses evidence-based therapeutic techniques and focuses on practical conversation and skill building. Sessions emphasize identifying family patterns and practicing different ways of relating.
How much experience does he have?
He has 23 years of clinical experience working with adults on relationship and personal concerns. That experience includes work around commitment, communication, and caregiver stress.
What are his credentials and where does he practice?
He is a California LMFT, which stands for Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. His practice is based in California.
Which languages are supported?
Sessions are offered in English according to the profile.
What session formats are available?
The original biography did not list specific session formats. Confirm current session options with the provider before booking.
How does payment work and what does it cost?
Cost varies with location and sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time. Exact pricing depends on the service area and plan chosen.
How do I get started?
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