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John Shafer

John Shafer, LCSW

New York

LCSW in New York - family and relationship concerns

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  • Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
  • Relationship and family issues

About John

John Shafer is an LCSW (Licensed Clinical Social Worker) practicing in New York with 25 years of experience. He lists stress, anxiety, relationship and family concerns among his main areas of work. John also notes experience with trauma and abuse, depression, addictions, LGBT issues, grief, intimacy concerns, sleep problems, parenting stress, anger, self-esteem, career questions, bipolar disorder, ADHD, and other life changes.

John trained at Syracuse University School of Social Work and began clinical practice in 1998. Early work took him into rural community mental health, school-based settings, and services across city and suburban clinics. Those varied jobs exposed him to a wide range of ages and life situations, from young children through people in their nineties.

Over the years he broadened his experience with different socio-economic and cultural backgrounds. John pursued ongoing diversity training and adapted how he talked about gender identity and expression so it fit each person's cultural context. That background informs how he discusses relationship roles, expectations, and family-of-origin patterns in sessions.

In sessions he draws from several well known approaches such as Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), client-centered work, mindfulness, narrative techniques, strengths-based ideas, and solution-focused methods. He uses those methods to help people clarify goals, practice new skills, and try out different ways of relating.

John has run individual sessions, group work, and couple work during his career. He describes his style as collaborative and client-centered, working with people to set practical goals and try changes that fit their daily life.

How his approaches translate to online work

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) focuses on clarifying personal values and taking committed steps toward those values. It pairs practical actions with acceptance skills to address anxiety, stress, and life transitions. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) looks at the links between thoughts, feelings, and behaviors and teaches concrete skills to change unhelpful patterns. CBT is often used for anxiety, depression, sleep problems, and anger. Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) teaches emotion regulation, distress tolerance, and interpersonal effectiveness skills useful for intense feelings and relationship struggles.

Finding the right mix of approaches is part of the work. The therapist will collaborate with each person to decide which methods best fit their goals and day-to-day life. That decision is revisited as goals change or new concerns appear.

The practical benefits of online work can include fitting sessions into a busy schedule, shorter check-ins when helpful, and avoiding travel time. The source biography does not list specific session formats, so confirm current session options before booking. Sessions aim to help people practice skills, adjust family-of-origin patterns, and test new ways of relating in ways that fit their routine.

Areas of expertise

Primary focus

Stress, AnxietyRelationship issuesFamily conflictsTrauma and abuseDepression

Also works with

AddictionsLGBTGriefIntimacy-related issuesSleeping disordersParenting issuesAnger managementSelf esteemCareer difficultiesBipolar disorderCoping with life changesCoachingCompassion fatigueADHD

Additional focus areas

AbandonmentAdoption and foster careAging and geriatric issuesAntisocial personalityAttachment issuesAutism and Asperger SyndromeAvoidant personalityBlended family issuesCancerCaregiver issues and stressChronic pain, illness, and disabilityCo-morbidityCodependencyCommitment issuesCommunication problemsControl issuesCoping with natural or human-caused disasterDependent personalityDisruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD)DissociationDivorce and separationDomestic violenceEmptinessFamily of origin issuesFamily problemsFatherhood issuesFertility issuesFirst responder issuesForgivenessGender dysphoriaGuilt and shameHoardingHospice and end-of-life counselingImmigration issuesImpulsivityInfidelityIntellectual disabilityIsolation / lonelinessJealousyLife purposeMen's issuesMidlife crisisMoney and financial issuesMood disordersNarcissismObsessions, compulsions, and OCDPanic disorder and panic attacksParanoiaPersonality disordersPhobiasPostpartum depressionPost-traumatic stressSeasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)Self-harmSelf-loveSocial anxiety and phobiaSomatizationWomen's issuesWorkplace issues

Therapeutic approaches

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)Client-Centered TherapyCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)Existential TherapyMindfulness TherapyMotivational InterviewingNarrative TherapySolution-Focused TherapyTrauma-Focused Therapy

Experience

25+ years

Listed in

New York

Languages

English

Frequently asked questions

Which concerns does he address related to family patterns?

He works with people on family and relationship patterns, attachment issues, abandonment, blended family concerns, and parenting stress.

What is his therapeutic style?

He describes a collaborative, client-centered approach and uses practical techniques to test new behaviors and coping skills in daily life.

How much clinical experience does he have?

He has 25 years of clinical experience, beginning after a Master of Social Work from Syracuse University in 1998.

What credentials and location are listed?

He is an LCSW licensed in New York and practices in New York state.

Are sessions offered in other languages?

Sessions are offered in English.

Does he accept clients from other countries?

He does not accept international clients at this time.

How are sessions billed or paid for?

Cost varies with location; sessions use a subscription model that can be canceled at any time.

What steps are required to begin working with him?

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